Hopefully we all love our children and love to be close to them. We are their parents and they should be able to talk to us about anything, we hope. Children follow our examples good and bad. We want to be a positive influence on our children. We show them we have boundaries and one way is by not letting them disrespect us. They should have boundaries also. Everyone deserves respect and your children do to. Assure them that it is ok to say no, when someone is hurting them and crossing their boundaries.
Ephesians 5:1 NKJV, “Therefore be imitators of God as dear children.”
By, LaShaunda Pittman
Children seldom lie about sexual abuse. They find it very hard to tell someone. If they tell you, you need to listen carefully and believe them.
Abused children often learn “survival skills” to protect themselves emotionally and physically, children may respond in different ways. For instance, they may:
DENY that the abuse is occurring. Some daydream that they’re elsewhere, or that the abuse is happening to a stranger. Others may block out the memory of the abuse.
WITHDRAW, if adult attention brings abuse. These children learn that it’s not safe to express themselves or take chances.
SEEK APPROVAL from adults by being “perfect”-being the best in school, doing extra chores, helping others, for instance.
TURN OFF FEELINGS, both emotional and physical, to protect themselves from pain.
MISBEHAVE to express anger and frustration, or to get attention-even if it hurts.
BLAME THEMSELVES for the abuse and think they’re “bad.” (It can be hard for children to recognize that adults aren’t perfect.)
MYTH: Rape is caused by the perpetrator’s uncontrollable sexual urge.
FACT: Rape is an act of power and control, not sex.
2010 Edition 1987 Channing Bete Company, Inc. About Adults Abused As Children
2009 Michigan Coalition Against Domestic and Sexual Violence A Handbook For Survivors of Sexual Assault
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